Internet Sides with Girlfriend After She Puts a Limit on Boyfriend Snoozing Alarm: 'I counted out of spite...Mark's alarms went off 12 times'

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Isabella Penn
Mar 14, 2024 7:00 PM EDT

Most of us have experienced the annoyance of being woken up by someone else's alarm, whether it's from a partner, roommate, or just one of our besties at a sleepover. And what's even worse is when they snooze it a million times. I am someone who is a very light sleeper, and I usually wake up at the very first ring of an alarm clock. I don't understand how people can sleep through it.

Well, this girlfriend has reached her breaking point, and honestly, we don't blame her. Her boyfriend has to leave 2-3 hours before she does in the morning for work. But he's one of those serial snoozers we were just talking about. We're talking, snoozing his alarm 12 times in the course of an hour. That's enough to drive me absolutely crazy. However, her boyfriend doesn't seem to understand why this is so problematic for her. So, she gives him an ultimatum. 

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  • 01
    Posted by u/throwawaybreakuphel 23 hours ago AITA (24F) for setting a limit on how many times my boyfriend (29M) can "snooze" his alarm, and threatening to sleep on the couch when he goes over the agreed limit?
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  • 02
    Hey everyone, we're at a bit of an impasse here. I'm (obviously) quite sleep deprived so sorry if I sound a bit ticked off. My boyfriend "Mark" works a very early shift requiring him to be at work at 5am. He sets his
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  • 03
    alarm for 4am, but he has a nasty habit of snoozing it repeatedly. I don't get up for work until about 6:30- 7:30am depending on when I start, so obviously my sleep is really disturbed by this. Mark is an incredible
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  • 04
    boyfriend in nearly all aspects, he's the man I want to marry, but he struggles with ADHD which can make things difficult - namely getting out of bed is a challenge for him. Might be
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  • 05
    worth noting but I am also awaiting official diagnosis, but I'm also fairly certain I'm ADHD/autistic or a mix of the two, so I also find getting up hard and I value my sleep. His alarms make that really hard.
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  • 06
    It's not just one alarm that goes off, either. Mark has somehow managed to set his alarms so that his phone, Apple Watch and apple home pod ALL go off either at the same time, or within minutes of each other - not
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  • 07
    even the usual 9 minutes that Apple allows when you hit snooze, there's a different alarm going with different snoozes every few minutes?! Yesterday morning I counted out of spite between 4 and 5am, -
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  • 08
    Mark's alarms went off 12 times. I wish I was joking. It's gotten to the point now where I just get up at around 4:30 because I just don't want to keep listening to his awful alarm noise.
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  • 09
    He's tried changing the tone of the alarm, he's tried switching it to music I like instead of the default alarm, none of it helps. As soon as I'm woken up about 5 times by the alarm, there's no going back to sleep for me
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  • 10
    before I need to leave for work. So I ended up telling Mark this morning that unless he could agree to only snooze his alarm twice, at a maximum, and then he GETS UP, I will have to sleep on the couch for the
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  • 11
    foreseeable future. I've done this a couple of times when he's surpassed snoozing the alarm 5 times, just to get some peace and quiet - he took this as passive aggressive and was hurt by it, which did make me feel really bad, but I'm just so
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    exhausted all the time. Every morning, Monday-Friday, is like this. I can't take it anymore. He feels I should be more understanding of his condition, but it's hard to be understanding when you're woken up every day
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  • 13
    in such an awful manner when I don't even have to be awake for another 2 hours or more. AITA? Edit: wow this blew up, I won't have time to read everyone's comments but here's what we've agreed to do: I've spoken with him and
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  • 14
    he's apologised again, he didn't realise how much it was actually affecting my day beyond just having a start to the morning sometimes (the problem was we realised he truly thought I was just going back to sleep once he said
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  • 15
    goodbye to me, when in reality I was tossing and turning and stewing in my frustration without actually voicing it). He has agreed to set one alarm at 4:30 and he will snooze it once and then get up - if he can't get up, he's given me permission to harass him until he does lol.
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  • 16
    So we'll try that for the rest of the week, hopefully he can just get up and I won't have to bother him but he's promised he's going to make more of an effort! After that "trial period" he'll be left to his own devices and if he oversleeps then so be it, we've agreed it's not my responsibility to get him up and my sleep is more important.
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  • 17
    Malicious_Tacos 22 hr. ago . edited 22 hr. ago Partassipant [1] ΝΤΑ My husband was like this when we first moved in together. At the time Apple alarms and stuff didn't exist, so he just hit the "snooze button" on his alarm clock half a dozen times. He's one of those people who can sleep through anything, so he'd happily roll over and sleep some more.
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  • 18
    I'm someone who has a hard time sleeping. I swear the planets have to be aligned perfectly for me to sleep properly, and my deepest sleep tends to be in the early morning hours. But if I hear an alarm, then that's it... I'm awake.
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  • 19
    I was so frustrated that I outright told my husband (who was my boyfriend at the time) that I would murder him dead if he didn't quit with the snooze button. We didn't have a different place for him to sleep, as we shared our small apartment with a roommate.
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  • 20
    When I was at my most fed up, I got vicious. Lol. His alarm would go off & he'd hit snooze. - immediately, I'd shake him and tell him to get his up. I'd be so obnoxious that he'd get up just to get me to stop. I'd plant my feet on his and literally push him out of the bed.
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  • 21
    It took a few months, but eventually he got into the habit of just getting up when the alarm went off the first time. I didn't end up killing him, and we've been together 21 years.
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    KronkLaSworda 23 hr. ago • Sultan of Sphincter [821] "he took this as passive aggressive" He should be the one sleeping on the couch until he learns to be respectful of other people's sleep. OR, find a new job where he doesn't have to get up at 4 AM. This is a hill worth dying on. Don't back down. NTA
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  • 23
    Kamloops-Pineview 1 day ago It would make sense to me that after the first alarm goes off that he gets up and lies down on the couch with his alarm collection and let's you sleep. Don't keep the alarm beside the bed but that he has to get out of bed already to hit the snooze. This is purely habitual and the cycle should be easily changed. I've never been one to hit snooze, alarm goes and I'm up 99% of the time but I had an ex like that and know how annoying it is. I'm going to say neither of you
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  • 24
    09:48 Alarm Snooze Stop
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